For those of you who are avid followers of The Rookie Dad, you have probably realized that I am not the best person to seek advice from in the parenting world. I tell you how it really is. Last night however, I realized just what we went through and how big the payoff is.
My best friend and his wife were visiting last night and they are expecting a little girl in May. They were curious about all the parenting stuff that we do, because as a future parent you want all the advice you can get. They were asking about how we do things diapers, diaper bags, baby food, all the good parenting stuff and what we thought worked and why. Also having them over was a good excuse to get rid of some books! I know that they both read this blog so I do want to tell them this, the books that we gave you are probably the best that we found.
We were on the drive home from dinner and the girls were in the front seat talking about labor and like any women who is about to embark on the journey of labor the expectant mom was freaking out. Mrs. Rookie Dad was calming her down because she knew exactly where the new mom was coming from. I was recollecting what I remembered from that time and I remember even freaking out. Probably more so then Mrs. Rookie Dad at some time. I will not get into details of the conversation because honestly it is to damn early in the morning but I remember saying this…
Just remember this, in the end it is all worth it
Some of the best advice I can give to a new parent. You will hear all the bad from labor and pregnancies because women love to torture themselves and other women thinking the worst. I can not stop one from thinking the worst during that time. It is one thing that I do not understand about women when they are pregnant or talking to a pregnant women. Do NOT tell them the horror stories, they have enough going on as it is. Despite all the bad that you will hear, it is all worth it in end and everything will be alright. Maybe that is just the eternal optimist in me.
My second piece of advice is this, you have to figure it out for yourself. Sure, you will be going to family and friends if you have questions but the ultimate decision is yours and what you feel is best for your child. I never dreamed of the day that I would be making the decisions for someone else and now look how he has turned out… a bratty know it all child who thinks the world owes him something. They make books, blogs and all of that kind of stuff for what to do in certain situations or how far along your child should be. If you want to raise a child by the book by all means do so but do what is comfortable for you. We found out that the books just freaked us out more than anything. You have to figure out what works for you and that part takes time because in the beginning you do not know.
I may not be the best person to come to for advice on parenting but as I mentioned before this is all worth it in the end.
However, would I do this all over again?