What will our future hold? Well the immediate future is 3 years of Law School but after that what will our life bring us? Will we still be in the same city or will we move? Will we be living on Mars? Will we have another kid?
You are probably thinking, “Wait didn’t he mention at one time that it was not selfish to have another child?” Yes, and right now we still will only have one child. I am not making a big announcement here, so do not expect me to just come out and say “hey there’s a bun in the oven!” There is NOT! It is something that we are thinking about though. Processing how far apart to have children and if we have enough love to share for two.
If this were to happen the Kid would be 5 or 6 years older than the baby. Would he embrace the big brother role? I can initially see him throwing his trains across the room in anger and then opening his arms and hugging and kissing the new child.
Hot Mama and I may have the baby bug. The Kid is growing up so fast that we both wish that he would stay a baby. The same time we have to realistic about what we can and can not do. Maybe if Hot Mama were not going through Law School we would maybe try but we know that there are so many obstacles in the way while she is in school: finances, studying, daycare, and her taking time away from school with the new baby. It is just not going to happen right now. I do not even know if I am ready in my career to think about a second child. It is already hard enough working full-time with the Kid but it is just one of the challenges that parents go through.
Maybe this is the sentimental side of me that I wrote about yesterday. Since we are dreaming big here and thinking 4 years into the future possibly. I hope its a girl. Risking that the Kid will someday read this and never talk to his dad again, I was hoping the Kid would be a girl, maybe that is because we had initially planned on that, everyone did. The sonogram tech looked and asked us, “Do you know what that is?” and it all changed.
Whether the Kid was a girl or boy, does not change how much we love him. It will not change how much we love our future child (if there is one). As a dad though, there are certain experiences that one can have with boys and other experiences with girls. Maybe the selfish side of me is coming out, but I want to experience them all!