FTC Disclosure: This is a promotional post for the new Marvel line of pens at Cross Pens. The thoughts and opinions are my (or my wife’s in this case) own and were in no way influenced by Cross Pens.
You show our sons that emotions are part of the human experience. Men don’t have to be stoic statues without feeling. I don’t want our sons to see a cold suit of armor; I want them to see their Dad.
Rookie Dad: Hey babe, what do you think about writing a post for the blog about Iron Man?
Me: Is that some sort of euphemism?
Rookie Dad: heh heh.
Me: heh heh.
Kid: What’s so funny?
So the other day we got a package in the mail. It was a pretty sweet promotional Iron Man pen sent by Cross Pen. The Rookie helped open the package, and immediately squealed when he saw it was Iron Man, one of his favorite superheroes. (Although the Iron Man movies are too mature for our five year old, he’s very acquainted with Iron Man through Super Hero Squad, Lego Superheroes, and bedtime stories).
The pen’s arrival prompted some furious super hero pretend play, complete with sound effects and racing through the house. An epic battle involving Spiderman, Iron Man, and a yapping dog, who had been whipped into a frenzy in the excitement. Just when it seemed our four-foot-tall Spiderman was getting the better of the lumbering (and slightly winded) Iron Man, Iron Man made a spectacular comeback by grabbing the Nerf gun and turning SpiderBoy into SpiderZombie.
Kid: NO FAIR! Spiderman doesn’t have a gun. He just has webs.
Rookie Dad: Mwahaha! IRON MAN WINS AGAIN!
Oh, honey. Let me put it bluntly:
You’re not Iron Man.
I love you, babe, but you’re not. And that’s waaay better. Let me tell you why:
- Tony Stark is kind of a tool. Sure, he’s a gazillionaire and saves people and gets all the ladies. But he’s not the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. He’s definitely not the kind of person you want as a role model for your children (absent the “saving people” part). He’s reclusive and abrasive and treats those closest to him like crap (case in point: Pepper). You, however, are not Iron Man. You are kind and thoughtful and absolutely the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. You are an amazing father to our sons and exactly the type of role model that I want them to have.
- Iron Man wears a suit of cold metal as a protective layer; a barrier to protect him from the outside world. You, however, are not Iron Man. You aren’t afraid to show emotion. You laugh when something is funny, cry when it’s not, commensurate with those who need to vent, and share in the joys of life. You show our sons that emotions are part of the human experience. Men don’t have to be stoic statues without feeling. I don’t want our sons to see a cold suit of armor; I want them to see their Dad.
- Iron Man leads a double life: the world sees Iron Man separately from Tony Stark. You, however, are not Iron Man. Okay, sure, you have your online presence as The Rookie Dad, but it’s still you. Your online identity is merely a redacted version of the rest of your life—because, let’s face it, not everyone needs to hear about our child’s gastrointestinal prowess (not sure who he gets that from) or our occasional bickering about who’s going to do the dishes tonight. But who you are in your blog is still YOU.
So as we get ready for Father’s Day, I want to (lovingly) remind you that you are not Iron Man. And that is even better in my eyes. You can idolize an action figure on a tv screen, but I idolize the man standing in front of me even more.
If you are still looking for the #writegift for the father in your family for this Father’s Day consider the new Marvel line of pens at Cross Pens.