I’ve almost forgotten what alone time is. I mean, I feel like I can’t watch TV without interruption, without someone wanting me to play with them or to go outside… let alone go to the bathroom alone… not giving me a chance to break a new high score on Angry Birds.


We had just finished up watching Wild Kratts, getting ready to walk out the door on our way to school. He stopped mid-sentence, he was explaining that there was a new Odd Squad episode on May 30th one that was going to change everything apparently, to tell me the words that gave me more mixed feelings than what said life changing episode of Odd Squad gave me… I won’t spoil it for those who haven’t seen it yet.

“Daddy, I want some alone time”

The Moment My Son Wanted Nothing To Do With Me - The Roo

Initially, I leaped for joy. I was thrilled that he was finally wanting to spend some time by himself. We have only been asking him to play by himself for the last… 5 years. It could have come at a better time though since we were just walking out the door and he will probably forget he even said it when we got home for the day. Which he did.

Either way, those words came out of his mouth. Which means he has been thinking about it… for some time now. Or realizes that with a new baby on the way he is going to have be spending more time by himself and will just have to get used to it.

I’ve almost forgotten what alone time is. I mean, I feel like I can’t watch TV without interruption, without someone wanting me to play with them or to go outside… let alone go to the bathroom alone… not giving me a chance to break a new high score on Angry Birds.

I’ve been waiting for this day!

Had this day come when my son was 14, I would wonder why he was wanting some alone time. I’d be questioning it even more if he wanted that alone time and then went to go take a shower. That day is coming to I’m sure.

I’ve been waiting for this day, but I knew that I was going to dread it.

While celebrating this moment, at the same time, I have been saying that this moment was coming… a moment he no longer wanted to spend with us. Now, I understand that he is only 5, and this doesn’t mean at the moment he is going to stop spending time with us completely… leaving me to beg to go out on a bike ride with him.

For the last 5 years, we have done just about everything together. When he asks me to play baseball with him, I can’t say no even if I am busy working on something else. When he wants me to sit down and read a book to him, I will sit there and read whatever book he wants me to read. When he wants me to build a train track with him, damn it I am going to sit down and build him the best track that we have put together to date.

That is what makes this moment so difficult. Yes, I am excited that he is finally wanting to do something alone, but at the same time, this is just a glimpse into what is to come. This is just the start of the time where he will come home, close his door, and only come out to dinner. A dinner in which I will more than likely have to communicate to him via text message or whatever is popular at the time. And more than likely, I will only get one or two-word answers.

I’m not ready for that. Sure, that time is a few years off, but that means I have to start cherishing the moments that are the here and now. I have to stop whatever I am doing to do the things that he wants to do because that day is coming. Even if sharing moments with him are watching TV in the mornings together, that is a moment we are sharing together and a moment that won’t happen once he reaches a certain age.

Until the day he comes home and doesn’t have a shine in his eye when he tells me how his day was… I won’t look too deep into the time he told me, “daddy, I want some alone time.” I will continue to enjoy the moments that he wants to spend with me.

Now I must go, someone is asking me to go play catch…

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  1. jeremy@thirstydaddy June 1, 2016 at 10:07 AM

    I understand this completely. I should love the fact that my daughter no longer wakes me up the moment her eyes open in the morning, but then I come downstairs, find her eating cereal and watching Spongebob, and wonder how this happened.

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  2. Larry June 2, 2016 at 9:23 PM

    I’m a few years ahead of you as my kids are 12 and 9. It’s awesome to see them grow up. However, part of that means them stepping away. I get it and want it for them as it’s natural but still a little sad.

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