WHy didn’t someone tell me I wouldn’t be getting paid to be a parent?  Am I doing it to be paid though?

I am a working parent who goes to work every day to provide for my family and comes home and after a long day at work still comes home to be a parent. Then there is the stay-at-home-parent who provides for their family by staying home, taking care of the kids all day and does not get a break when the day is over and their spouse comes home.

Many studies have come out to prove what each style of parenting is worth to their family. What is missed in these studies is that each style is worth something and many times underpaid, in a monetary value and time-off sense. There are so many parents who deserve a raise, if not in their career but also personally.

We don’t become a parent for the money. Maybe the tax deduction. We become parents for different reasons. We want to start a family and pass down what we have learned in the real world to our kids. We want to raise our kids to live in a world that is better than the one we grew up in.

Being that kind of parent though doesn’t come without a cost.

Parenting is a 24/7 unpaid job. A parent can work a full 40+ work week but even when they get home from work it is difficult to find the time to sit down and take time to you. At 5PM even the stay-at-home-parent or the working parent who has just arrived home from work still has to make dinner, clean the house, bathe the children and put them to bed.

It’s a never-ending job and many parents don’t think about how they can give themselves a raise. For me personally my way of giving me raise is lying next to my son until he falls asleep, gently getting out of his bed, walking to the living room, and turning on a baseball game.

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Seeing my son laying there knowing that he will someday turn out to hopefully be someone better than me is the one thing that gives me my raise each and every day. Seeing him is the one thing that gives me the encouragement to continue going to work each and every day. Being able to sit down and watch a baseball game is just a bonus. It really is the simple things that give me my raise every day. It’s the smile; it’s the wrestling on the floor, or playing baseball in the back yard with the Kid.

It is not the money that I do this parenting thing for. You probably don’t do this parenting gig for the money either. If we did, our lives wouldn’t be what they are. I do this because I love my son and because I love my wife. Being able to come home each and every day from a hard day’s work is a raise in-and-of itself.

What do you do this parenting thing for? How do you give yourself a raise at the end of the day?

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  1. The Pinterested Parent April 10, 2014 at 7:32 AM

    I love this and it is so true. I find that I rarely have any time for myself, but the funny thing is once I do get a little time away for myself, I want to hurry home to my daughter.

  2. journey2dfuture April 10, 2014 at 10:58 AM

    So true. At 19month’s in to this parenting gig I’ve only allowed my self time away from my son a hand full of times for an hour each time. But most recently I’ve allowed myself to run, My first run was jut this past Tuesday morning and I left my son crying at the door with his father. However hard it was to close that front door to a crying child it was truely amazing getting away from him. Only to return home 30mins later to him laughing his head off at Peppa pig. 😉

  3. Michael Schmid April 10, 2014 at 1:17 PM

    Great post. I’ve been lucky so far these past 5 years, that being a parent has felt like compensation in and of itself. I know that won’t always be the case, of course. 😉

  4. Jonathan April 12, 2014 at 12:14 PM

    I can really relate to what you’ve said about parenting here as I’m a similar situation as parent who works full time during the week. It sure can be tiring, but it’s just great to be there and see our son develop day by day.


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